In the light of International Women's Day this Sunday and the recent Nirbhaya documentary controversy. A thought came across my mind, do we really need to celebrate Women's day in our country? After all we treat our women with utmost respect all the time. Why do they need to have one more day especially for them.
After all women have it so easy.. born if you are allowed to be.. study if you are allowed to.. get married to someone you don't want to... get beaten by husband when he wants to.. make babies(read: boys).. cook.. clean.. care for everyone.. all this while bringing in a healthy dowry like a car.. lots of cash.. TV.. Scooter.. Jewellery.. They have such an easy life and all they do is complain.
They complain that they are not considered equal to men. Of course you are not equal to men. You can never do things that men can. Men and women have different roles in society. Men are supposed to earn the bread for the house and in the process can do whatever the hell he wants after all he brings the food to the table. While women are supposed to do the easy things like cooking cleaning and getting pregnant. Certain women also complain that they don't get paid equal at their jobs. I ask them, why do you have to work? That is not your role in family, that is not Indian Culture. Indian women are supposed to be at home.. covered from head to toe.. not go out at night.. not eat fast food.. not wear jeans.. not say anything to her husband.. not make eye contact with any one.. They should simply not exist.. not breathe.
They complain they are not safe.. I don't agree with that.. Women in our country are very safe. How can you be harmed when you stay at home. At home you are unsafe only if you oppose your husband or in laws. Which you should never do. If you do that then you deserved to be punished. Otherwise you will have problems only if you don't follow the rules I mentioned above. If you are a girl who goes out at night with boys and watch movies, go to pubs and drink, or simply went out for an ice cream after its dark. That is not what this country is about. If you do that boys are not to blame if you are raped or murdered. It is completely the girls fault for being independent having a voice and dreams. Men will be men, they will rape you they will kill you but only if you are asking for it. See let me make you understand for eg. if you are wearing skirts or shorts.. you are asking for it. If you are wearing jeans.. you are asking for it.. if you are wearing tight salwar kameez.. you are asking for it.. if you are wearing a saree.. you are asking for it.. If you are wearing a school dress.. you are still asking for it.. If a rape has happened it is the girl who is wrong. It is she who is taking the blame.. it is her whose life is ruined.. it is her who will be depressed.. it is her who will lose the will to live.. Guys, they are innocent creatures.. like wolves.
I haven't watched the documentary.. I don't want to.. I know what they will say.. The same that every man who is defending a rapist can say. Same old things which our politicos have said many times. I just feel for the women in the life of such men. Their daughters, wives, mothers, sisters, daughter in law. Every year on women's day we go bonkers with the FB sand Twitter updates talking about women empowerment, and how we should be proud of our women and celebrate their presence and compare them to goddesses and list out some names of great women. We do all this for one day and get back to asking mothers or wives to cook for you the next probably the same day.
Women make up half the world, roughly 3.5 billion women in the world. We still have give them a special day and make them feel important for one day because we treat them like dirt the rest of the days. I feel if you have to give something that makes up half the world a day so we can see how awesome they are, it doesn't make sense. Our ultimate goal is equality be it in terms of social status, at work or at home. Yes, we need to change a lot and we need to create more awareness about issues women of this country face and I am all for that, so as of now this day is needed.
But I look forward to the time when we don't need a pretentious day to celebrate women in our country. If that will happen or not, I am not so sure.
After all women have it so easy.. born if you are allowed to be.. study if you are allowed to.. get married to someone you don't want to... get beaten by husband when he wants to.. make babies(read: boys).. cook.. clean.. care for everyone.. all this while bringing in a healthy dowry like a car.. lots of cash.. TV.. Scooter.. Jewellery.. They have such an easy life and all they do is complain.
They complain that they are not considered equal to men. Of course you are not equal to men. You can never do things that men can. Men and women have different roles in society. Men are supposed to earn the bread for the house and in the process can do whatever the hell he wants after all he brings the food to the table. While women are supposed to do the easy things like cooking cleaning and getting pregnant. Certain women also complain that they don't get paid equal at their jobs. I ask them, why do you have to work? That is not your role in family, that is not Indian Culture. Indian women are supposed to be at home.. covered from head to toe.. not go out at night.. not eat fast food.. not wear jeans.. not say anything to her husband.. not make eye contact with any one.. They should simply not exist.. not breathe.
They complain they are not safe.. I don't agree with that.. Women in our country are very safe. How can you be harmed when you stay at home. At home you are unsafe only if you oppose your husband or in laws. Which you should never do. If you do that then you deserved to be punished. Otherwise you will have problems only if you don't follow the rules I mentioned above. If you are a girl who goes out at night with boys and watch movies, go to pubs and drink, or simply went out for an ice cream after its dark. That is not what this country is about. If you do that boys are not to blame if you are raped or murdered. It is completely the girls fault for being independent having a voice and dreams. Men will be men, they will rape you they will kill you but only if you are asking for it. See let me make you understand for eg. if you are wearing skirts or shorts.. you are asking for it. If you are wearing jeans.. you are asking for it.. if you are wearing tight salwar kameez.. you are asking for it.. if you are wearing a saree.. you are asking for it.. If you are wearing a school dress.. you are still asking for it.. If a rape has happened it is the girl who is wrong. It is she who is taking the blame.. it is her whose life is ruined.. it is her who will be depressed.. it is her who will lose the will to live.. Guys, they are innocent creatures.. like wolves.
I haven't watched the documentary.. I don't want to.. I know what they will say.. The same that every man who is defending a rapist can say. Same old things which our politicos have said many times. I just feel for the women in the life of such men. Their daughters, wives, mothers, sisters, daughter in law. Every year on women's day we go bonkers with the FB sand Twitter updates talking about women empowerment, and how we should be proud of our women and celebrate their presence and compare them to goddesses and list out some names of great women. We do all this for one day and get back to asking mothers or wives to cook for you the next probably the same day.
Women make up half the world, roughly 3.5 billion women in the world. We still have give them a special day and make them feel important for one day because we treat them like dirt the rest of the days. I feel if you have to give something that makes up half the world a day so we can see how awesome they are, it doesn't make sense. Our ultimate goal is equality be it in terms of social status, at work or at home. Yes, we need to change a lot and we need to create more awareness about issues women of this country face and I am all for that, so as of now this day is needed.
But I look forward to the time when we don't need a pretentious day to celebrate women in our country. If that will happen or not, I am not so sure.
